The hard questions....

I am in the process of updating my will and my partner is writing one and it is leading us to talk about some of the hard questions. Things like what happens if he passes away, what happens to regarding care of the children. Do I want to maintain a relationship with them or not? To me the answers are simple, of course I would want to remain in contact with the children. But I agree we should talk about these issues. No one could predict (or want to) what would happen if that dreadful thing happened however it's best we have a clear understanding of our wishes. I guess for other families there is no question about what happens to the estate if one passes, it goes to the other.....this situation is a little more complex cause there are two children (that are not biologically mine) and their mother involved. As time moves on I think it will all sort itself out however in the mean time we will keep pondering to finalise the wills!